Losing Control

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Alina Choudry chronicles how the quiet young man in her household turned out to be a raging bull.

Dear Alina and Rahiba,
I might be leaving soon since I am having problems and it’s too much now. Just wanted to say sorry if I have done anything wrong or if I unintentionally hurt you guys. I wish you all the best for the future. Good luck, T

Two days later…

Dear Alina and Rahiba,
I have decided to stay and annoy the f**k out of her because she is a slut and she deserves it, T

Early one morning…

“You f****n slut. Im gonna f**k you up. You prostitute. Your mum’s a slut. I’m gonna f**k you!!”
That’s how I was woken at 6am on a Monday morning.

A few days earlier two of my housemates got into a minor argument which escalated in the coming days. It started over a small issue when the girl living upstairs, Sam, and her father were arguing about personal issues and T told her to speak respectfully.

She kindly told him to mind his own business and not get involved in personal matters, at which point T began swearing at her. “Bitch, you’re a slut.” He then walked off leaving Sam in shock, no one had ever heard him speak like that before. He was always so relaxed.

That night and for the next three days T blasted music and sang at the top of his voice all night to keep everyone awake. He would message Sam saying “Slut, I’m not gonna pay the rent. Go sell yourself on the streets and use that money for rent.”

We decided the best thing to do would be not to react. Sam had always treated him like a little brother but was left with no choice but to give him notice to leave at the end of the month.

He found new ways to make life as hard as possible for her while he was here. He would use up the electricity and gas so we would wake up with no lights and no hot water. He would stomp around the house making as much noise as possible but still no one reacted.

At 3am on Monday morning T left the house and the rest of us finally went to bed to get a few hours of sleep. At 6am he was back, swearing and armed with a knife. Sam, whose parents were visiting from Bangladesh happened to be asleep in her room while she had taken her brother’s room instead.

He walked in shouting ‘I’m going to kill you,” but was surprised to see her dad there. As he turned to go into her brother’s room, her dad began to shout and T pushed him down and ran out. He continued shouting for Sam, threatening to rape her and kill her. By this time her brother had woken up and came out. T threw the knife out of the window into a neighbour’s garden and tried to escape himself but Sam’s brother chased him and held him down while she called the police.

T was arrested a short while later. His work colleague rang some hours later and informed us that he had been planning the attack for a while, also that he had been previously arrested for a similar assault against his ex-girlfriend.

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